EMDR & Trauma Therapy · For Moms

EMDR therapy for
moms who feel stuck

You realise that you’ve now become the sort of mother you never wanted to be.

Moms&More offers EMDR therapy for mothers who want to break this cycle.

♥ May be (partially) reimbursed

♥ No long waiting list

♥ Online and In Person

Nikolien Martina

Accredited and registered psychosocial therapist · EMDR & trauma

You’re doing well.

And yet something doesn't feel quite right.

Perhaps you’ve been feeling it for years. A tension that won’t go away, even when everything is calm. Reactions to your children that are harsher than you’d like. Moments when something small takes you back to the past.

You’re not a bad mother. You’re a mother who carries around things she’s never properly come to terms with.

Trauma doesn’t necessarily have to be a major disaster. It could also be a birth that didn’t go as you’d hoped. A dream of having children that didn’t come true. An upbringing in which you were taught that you only mattered if you tried your best. A relationship that left a deeper mark than you’ve long been willing to admit.

They’re still in your nervous system. That’s why you react the way you do.

Beyond talking

How EMDR and trauma therapy work for mothers

EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing. It is an evidence-based treatment method for trauma, recognised by the WHO and the NIP.

The method does not work by talking about what happened. It works via the nervous system. During a session, you briefly activate a traumatic memory whilst simultaneously following a distracting stimulus: eye movements, sounds and cognitive tasks. Moms&More uses VR headsets for EMDR sessions in the clinic or an online EMDR platform for online sessions.

This causes your brain to process the memory in a new way. The emotional impact diminishes. You can look back on the experience without being overwhelmed by it.

The method, in a nutshell

1 · Activate: You briefly recall a specific memory.
2 · Follow: At the same time, you follow a distracting stimulus: eye movements, sounds, or instructions.
3 · Process: Your brain processes the memory again, with less emotional charge.
4 · Integrate: The experience is coming into its own. You’re responding to the present, not the past.

For moms, this means

You’re less likely to shout. Not because you have better control over yourself, but because there’s less that needs controlling.
Your children can tell that you’re really there for them.
You’re no longer overwhelmed by something that, at first glance, seems to have nothing to do with the present.
Your feelings of guilt about being a mother are starting to fade.
Motherhood no longer feels like something you have to survive.

Five specialisms

What can Moms&More help you with?

Trauma related to pregnancy and childbirth

An emergency caesarean section that you haven’t come to terms with. A birth where you felt that nobody was listening to you. A miscarriage that was more significant than the outside world seemed to understand. EMDR helps you come to terms with these experiences, so that they no longer dictate how you view your child or approach a future pregnancy.

Unwanted childlessness and the loss of a child

The loss of the ability to have children is a grieving process that is rarely taken seriously. IVF treatments, repeated disappointments, the feeling that your body is letting you down. The same applies to the loss of a child. EMDR helps you process the pain and shock of these experiences, so that they no longer control you.

Childhood trauma and patterns

You recognise yourself in the way you react to your children. The way you deal with stress, set boundaries, or fail to set them. Much of what you do now was learned in a family where certain things seemed normal, but weren’t. EMDR helps you process those early experiences, so that you can make more conscious choices about how you interact with your own children.

Relational trauma

A relationship or upbringing in which you were systematically belittled. A divorce that has left its mark in ways that go beyond the legal settlement. Patterns of control, rejection or insecurity that you still feel on a daily basis. EMDR works directly on the memories underlying these experiences.

Motherhood as a trigger

Postnatal depression, maternal burnout, or raising a child with a disability or chronic illness. Motherhood itself can be a situation that brings old pain to the surface, or causes new pain that needs to be processed.

May be (partially) covered by your Dutch supplementary health insurance

Accredited and registered therapist · No long waiting list

Fees & Reimbursements

May be covered by your Dutch health insurance

Psychosocial therapy and EMDR may be (partially) reimbursed under Dutch supplementary health insurance. This varies depending on the insurer and the policy.

Nikolien Martina is a accredited and registered therapist. Please check with your insurer to see if the treatment is covered by your Dutch supplementary insurance, or get in touch so we can sort this out together.

€ 97,-

per 50-minute session

50 min

duration of a session

Help quickly

no long waiting list

Individual sessions

no fixed route

Individual sessions

No set route.
You set the pace.

Moms&More offers individual sessions. You set the pace yourself.

A session lasts 50 minutes. You can work online or in person in Woerdense Verlaat, depending on what suits you best.

We always start with a free 20-minute introductory consultation. This can take place online or at our practice in Woerdense Verlaat. During this session, we’ll discuss your situation, assess whether EMDR is suitable for you, and draw up a plan together.

Who I am

Let me help you.

My name is Nikolien Martina. I am a qualified and registered psychosocial therapist, specialising in trauma and EMDR for mothers.

Ik ga snel naar de kern en naar het probleem achter het probleem, omdat ik weet dat je al lang genoeg omheen hebt gelopen.

Moms&More gaat ervan uit dat wat jij verwerkt, je kinderen niet meer hoeven te dragen.

Woerdense Verlaat Practice · also online

REGISTRATION: Accredited psychosocial therapist

AWARD Best Female Personal Development Coach 2023 · Benelux Enterprise Awards

What others say

Stories from mothers who have gone before you

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For years, I felt as though I was just scraping by. After a few EMDR sessions, I noticed that my reactions towards my children had changed because the tension had simply disappeared.

Lotte

Mom of two

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My labour had been tough, but I thought: other women have been through it too. It was only after EMDR that I realised how deeply it had affected me. Nikolien gets straight to the heart of the matter, without being harsh. That was exactly what I needed.

Anouk

Mom of a daughter

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I came to Moms&More with childhood trauma that I thought I’d learned to live with. The difference after a few sessions is noticeable. To me, and most of all to my family. My children now have a different mum.

Marit

Mom of three

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Frequently Asked Questions

FAQ's about EMDR
and the
intake

What exactly is EMDR therapy?

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) is an evidence-based treatment method for trauma, recognised by the WHO and the NIP. During a session, you briefly recall an unpleasant memory whilst following a distracting stimulus (eye movements, sounds or thought tasks). This causes your brain to reprocess the memory, reducing its emotional impact.

Who is EMDR suitable for?

EMDR is suitable for mothers who are struggling with birth trauma, loss or infertility, childhood trauma, relationship trauma, or symptoms triggered by motherhood. During the free introductory consultation, we will discuss together whether EMDR is right for your situation.

What happens during an EMDR session?

A session lasts 50 minutes. We start by briefly discussing how you’re doing. You then activate a specific memory whilst simultaneously focusing on a distracting stimulus. Moms&More uses VR headsets for in-person sessions and an online EMDR platform for online sessions. We bring each session to a gentle close.

How many sessions will I need?

It varies from person to person and depending on the issue. Sometimes one to three sessions are enough to address a specific memory. With more complex trauma, it may take longer. You work on a session-by-session basis, so you’re not tied to anything.

How much does a session cost, and is it covered by insurance?

A 50-minute session costs €97. Psychosocial therapy and EMDR are often (partially) covered by Dutch supplementary health insurance. This varies depending on the insurer and the policy. Please check with your insurer.

Is there a waiting list?

No. There’s no long waiting list at Moms&More. You can usually book a free introductory consultation within one to two weeks.

How does the free intake work?

The initial consultation is free, with no obligation, and lasts about 20 minutes. We’ll briefly discuss the issues you’re facing, I’ll explain how EMDR works, and together we’ll see if it’s the right fit for you. There’s no pressure to start straight away.

How do I sign up for the intake session?

You can sign up using the registration form on the waiting list page. You will receive a reply within 24 hours to arrange a time, either online or at the practice in Woerdense Verlaat.

Can EMDR be done online?

Yes. Online EMDR has been proven to be just as effective as in-person sessions. Moms&More uses a secure online EMDR platform, so you can work from the comfort of your own home.

What if I find it difficult to talk about my experiences?

It doesn’t need to be in great detail. EMDR doesn’t work through long conversations, but through the nervous system. You don’t need to go into every detail to be able to work through it.

Stop just trying to get by

Ready to stop putting off something that’s been waiting far too long?

Together, we’ll assess whether EMDR is suitable for your situation and what you can expect.

Online or in Woerdense Verlaat

Free of charge & with no obligation

No waiting list

Response within 24 hours

What you share remains private. No strings attached.

May be (partially) covered by your Dutch supplementary health insurance

EMDR therapy for
moms who feel stuck

And yet something doesn't feel quite right.