I was afraid to lose it all.

I confess, secretly I was so afraid to lose it all

She was earning 7 figures, but she was shit scared about money. She was heading a successful company, but felt so small. She was the breadwinner in her household, but believed she was not good enough, deserving, and worthy…

I am talking about my great-great-great-grandmother Anna, who set up her first business in the early 1800s. And I am talking about most of the women in my bloodline after her, including myself.

Yes, I must confess to you: 

I secretly suffered from this soul-crushing imposter syndrome too. 

Not enough

Even though on the outside I appeared successful, deep down I felt not enough.

A couple of years ago I moved to this beautiful country estate. Lush green everywhere, land enough for ponies. A place where my kids can grow up with dirty clothes, red cheeks, and cold noses. A dream come true. 

But I was so afraid. Afraid to lose this house that made me feel like coming home. I felt I was not deserving, and I couldn’t enjoy it. I felt I wasn’t worthy of such an amazing place. Even though I worked so hard. I was setting myself up for massive disappointment. And I was waiting for the day it would all fall apart.

Afraid to lose it all

Work even harder

So my strategy to avoid this to happen was to work even harder. Because at least that was the one thing I could control. And also know how to do that well, as the High-Achiever that I am. 

Worse even, I started to link my overdoing it to my success. And I believed that if I would give a little less, I would lose it all.

I thought that if I would push hard, strive, and go in with a lot of blood, sweat, and tears, I would earn enough money, and would secure my lifestyle, and then would feel peace, happiness, joy, and good enough.

But… it was never enough.

How hard I worked, how much money came in, the fear didn’t go away. Because, even though for now all was good and abundant, I didn’t believe it would stay that way in the future too.

I was not trusting. Not trusting myself. Not trusting my future. Not trusting the universe. The only thing I trusted was my hard work. My go-getting attitude. My winner’s mentality.

Intergenerational pattern

And this made me slowly lose my work passion, as it became more like a work addiction. Frantically searching for peace of mind, heart, and soul. And I was endangering the connection with my family, my kids, my house, and myself too.

But then I realized and recognized I was running an intergenerational pattern. A pattern that ran in my family for centuries. My female ancestors knew how to run incredible businesses, knew how to lead, knew how to earn money, knew how to build a wonderful legacy. And they also knew how to work very very hard.

But they didn’t know how to do that the female way. They didn’t learn how to be, rather than to do. They didn’t learn how to lean back, rather than to lean in. They didn’t learn how to trust, surrender and believe rather than to doubt and worry.

Fear-led and Heart-Led

And they were so Fear-led, instead of Heart-led.

I was so Fear-led too.

As I am an expert in breaking intergenerational patterns and traumas I knew I had to transform this.

So I Creatrix-ed this painful glass ceiling so to get rid of it once and for all, and gain the wisdom my ancestors lacked.

And this allowed me to firmly and wholeheartedly reconnect with my WHY too:

I have seen myself and my ancestors work very hard for worthiness, recognition, success, control, and safety because we couldn’t find it within ourselves. 

And I now so strongly feel again I am here to help you live your life not fear-led, but heart-led. So you can raise babies and have an amazing business. So you can have it all and have it your way, without sacrifice, guilt, shame, and fear. I am here for you so you can learn to combine your strong, powerful, executing (masculine) Doing energy, with your gentle, wiser, inner (feminine) Being energy. So you can lean in and lean back, make it work, and watch it work. And stop overcompensating to make up for the lack of you. 

So you finally feel whole and complete.

PS. If this resonates with you, I have created an amazing free Masterclass for you:

HOW TO FEEL FINANCIALLY SAFE & SUCCESSFUL AS A WELL-PAID FEMALE HIGH-ACHIEVER (Without working 24/7).

This online training will take less than 30 minutes of your time, but it will be a forever life changer.

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