I’m Nikolien – it’s nice to meet you!

The women in my family had been running their own businesses for ages. They were juggling with life, as they struggled with motherhood, all responsibilities and roles, insecurity, trauma, and blockages.

In the early 19th century, my great-great-grandmother, Anna, set up a thriving business in the textile industry. Back then, it was unusual for women to have their own careers or even earn their own money! But Anna really wanted to make a difference to others and be a role model for her children.

What was even more unusual was that as Anna’s business became more successful, her husband Jan gave up his job as a police officer to join her. Anna was the main breadwinner in their family and Jan was always so supportive of his wife. I am proud to say that they were a couple ahead of their time. But it also gave Anna a lot of challenges and she had to be mentally strong.

Anna’s blood runs through my veins and shaped me into who I am today. As a mother and entrepreneur, I know how important it is not only to be successful, but also to leave a positive legacy for our children. It is my mission to help other mothers do the same.

Anna’s legacy

Nikolien Martina-Doorenbos

As women and mothers, it is important to set an example and leave some kind of legacy for our children. I imagine how difficult it must have been for Anna to go against all expectations and conventions, and how many nights she may have spent awake worrying, facing insecurity and doubt. And despite this, she broke patterns and is an inspiration to the many women after her.

I wish all mothers the power of Anna and so I am very passionate about helping perfectionist, worrying and people-pleasing moms, so that they too can live their best lives and have a positive impact on the world!

Yes, I am ambitious, an explorer, an entrepreneur, but I am also a woman, a mother, and an individual who leads from the heart and wants to make a difference!

I am no-nonsense, open, direct, and not afraid to kick ass when needed, but I can also offer you much-needed warmth, support, and attention.

Being successful is not all grey suits and cold boardroom meetings. It’s about connection, fulfilment and being a positive role model for our children.

From Ballroom Dancer to International Business Owner

My career journey so far has been an interesting one. Today, I’m an international award-winning therapist, coach, trainer, and mentor for moms who struggle with their mental health and with trauma. I have run a global company for many years and have been the main provider in my family for a long time as well.

However, before becoming an entrepreneur, I worked in several high-pressure executive corporate positions around the world. And before that I used to be a top athlete in Ballroom dancing, doing international competitions while earning an MBA degree.

tHEN ONE DAY, i started a quest...

Working as a coach at the time, I was not satisfied with the results my female clients were seeing. It felt too much like a quick fix, or a strategy to deal with problems.

The point is, if you need a strategy to learn to deal with problems, it doesn’t mean that the underlying problem has gone away. I wanted to do things differently. At the time, I felt I was doing the same thing as all the other coaches and therapists. The approach was not good enough for women, and therefore gave average results.

But as they say, “What got you here won’t get you there!” and so I knew something had to change if I wanted to not only get better results for my clients, but also live my own full potential.

So I began a quest.
I learned coaching methodologies that helped me shake up the entire personal development industry in Europe. I became an international trainer for other coaches and therapists and had a wildly thriving practice. Until I realised something to myself…

I was stuck...

I realised that I had always lived a life from my head. A head full of perfectionism and control. I was always ‘switched on’, always in survival mode. I had spent years fighting to do everything perfectly, to perform and prove myself, both in my work and private life. Just like Anna and women after her. But this was a stuck pattern, inherited from generations before me and thus an invisible chain tying me to constant anxiety and stress. I was thundering straight towards burnout and I didn’t even realise it.

Until something unexpected happened that rocked everything. One day, I was suddenly on the verge of losing almost everything I had worked so hard for. Something traumatic happened to me.

I found myself in what is often described as the ‘dark night of the soul’. It felt like everything I had built up was collapsing, and I had to reinvent myself. It was a period of intense pain, but it forced me to break my old patterns and look inward. I had to let go of my perfectionism, control, and fear and learn to trust my intuition and heart.

The truth is, I have felt the same fears, pain, overwhelm, guilt, pressure, frustration and worry as you do now. I know what it’s like to be stuck in old (intergenerational) patterns and feel like you have no way out. But I got rid of it.

That experience taught me what true transformation is all about. It is not about simply achieving goals or following a strategy. It’s about recognising your inner blocks, embracing them and releasing them. It’s about finding balance between head, heart and intuition, and learning to trust the wisdom that lies within yourself.

I have gone through my own deep transformation and now I am here to help you walk the same path. You too can live a life of fulfilment, success and happiness, and make a difference that will be remembered for generations.

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I can now feel that I am someone. I choose life and participate more rather than brace for it and I don’t feel guilty about this. I take myself and my feminine flow seriously (never did that before as I thought it was a lot of nonsense and I was judgmental about this and set my bar high, as well as my demands on others). I give myself more permission to slow down and am less of a walking head. I was my own saboteur and consider myself quite nice company now;) I am less angry (beside of the ‘normal’ things.. I am only human too) and especially less scared and pessimistic. I’m stepping forward; I’m strong and more playful. I have found that I can be creative and am more sensitive than I thought. In the meantime I am in the right suitable flow in work; know what I can’t do and where I can take control. In my relationship there is more peace and space, humor and relaxation and intimacy. Sometimes I still disappear in work. care about others and mother-in-law troubles, but I don’t stay in it for long. Nikolien was the right mix of being supportive and also strict. ‘Own your shit’ in a constructive way. I still put my ‘hand in the oven’ but also know that I myself am the one who has to continue to take control. It is a big step to make the choice to embark on this program, but probably you are already committed enough to consider a route at all. Engaging (like everything in life I guess) is always the best way instead of stay where you are.

After the program with Nikolien, I can be myself and feel wonderfully free.

Looking back on my program at Moms&More more than a year ago : The goal I set with my program achieved is that I no longer have anxiety/panic attacks. The knot in my stomach that was there as long as I can remember is gone. For over a year! My confidence has skyrocketed and I won’t let others walk all over me. I dare to stand up for myself and dare to indicate when people cross my boundaries or that I just don’t want certain things. I have experienced the process as pleasant. Everything happened at my pace and Nikolien felt very good which was the best way for me. We worked via Zoom because I live abroad. It was wonderful to sit at home in my comfortable chair and come out of a session better. The difference with other programs is that it helped! Nikolien I a super person to me! She feels how far to go, listens to what I say and knows how to process in a session. Nikolien is clear and certainly direct and that is exactly what I needed. Even months after the last session I’m still thinking about things she said and I know it’s ok. So are you considering working with Nikolien? Give it a chance. You will see that it works! Do it really! I am still myself, just a stronger version of myself. I can’t recommend it enough. I have held myself back for years to feel better. Here you have no choice, you feel better without talking about your whole life to the point of boredom. I’m repeating myself but DO IT, TRY IT!! You won’t regret it. It has made my life so much easier and more fun!

After the program with Nikolien I have become calmer and no longer have outbursts. Because of this I got out of the vicious circle of getting angry and feeling really guilty afterwards. The journey went smoothly and logical. Nikolien realized during the process that there must also be a hormonal problem. She then has changed course and started tackling the hormonal issues. This made the program very successful and all the pieces finally fell together; it was therefore a nice route in which you get started in an easy, light way. Afterwards you are whole and complete without all kinds of things to work through difficult situations. Nikolien looks at what is really necessary; she looks beyond the method she uses. She offers customization and is not afraid to do what has to be done She is cordial, decisive and a loving coach! I felt accepted by Nikolien. Nikolien thank you for your confidence, inspiring, loving tailor-made help!!

Before I started the coaching program at Moms&More I was looking for which direction I should go regarding my career. We moved abroad for my husband’s job. I gave up my job as a teacher in the Netherlands and I was a stay-at-home mom for a while. When the kids went to school fulltime, it started to itch for me to get back to work; I then decided to follow a study that did not match my previous field of work. I thought it would be good to step outside my comfort zone. Although the training was very interesting and I learned a lot from it, it did not give the satisfaction to what I was looking for. What then? At that moment I met Nikolien and she guided me I my search for the answer to this important question. Due to her enormous dedication and expert coaching I have found out where my passion really lies and I am now convinced that I am on the right track. That gives so much peace of mind. I can’t wait to start my new adventure. Coming soon I start with a new training to become a child coach! Nikolien, thank you very much, you are a winner!!

I am now taking my place after my program. I am much calmer in my head. I more aware of my place in the world and my added value. I appreciate my past and the qualities I got. I really liked the guidance by Nikolien. Nikolien is always available and is down-to-earth in the process. She is a nice conversation partner. Would you ask me about my program, I would say: Do it! It really changes your life. Goal-oriented, effective and it works on a subconscious level.

I’m Nikolien – it’s nice to meet you!

I’m Nikolien – it’s nice to meet you!

Anna’s legacy

Nikolien Martina-Doorenbos

From Ballroom Dancer to International Business Owner

tHEN ONE DAY, i started a quest...

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